Embracing a Peaceful Christmas Alone

Yesterday, while selecting Christmas presents for my grandnephews and grandniece, I was reminded of my yearly realization that the holiday season no longer evokes the same feelings within me. It’s not that I have any aversion to it; I’m certainly not embodying Scrooge. However, the connection to Christmas has faded for me. It doesn’t hold the significance it once did.  I continue to receive invitations to my brother’s Christmas dinner. Yet, ever since we lost our mother, I’ve felt more like an observer at these family events, particularly as most of the guests are relatives of my sister-in-law. 

While growing up, my parents ensured that I had the full Christmas experience, complete with the traditional Christmas mass, late-night dinner, and the excitement of unwrapping gifts once the clock hit midnight. This same ritual continued as my nephews matured, although due to their commitments to both sets of grandparents, my parents adjusted by hosting the Christmas dinner and gift-opening session earlier.     

Over the years, as my parents aged, their enthusiasm for late-night festivities waned. We continued to attend Christmas Mass, opting for the earliest service available. It was during this period that my own sentiments towards Christmas began to diminish. Gradually, I found myself adjusting to this new norm.

I stopped the tradition of presenting gifts to my nephews once they reached adulthood and began earning independently. However, I continued to gift my parents. With their passing, the reason to purchase gifts faded, until the arrival of my grandnephews and grandniece. Now, I find myself giving, perhaps out of an unspoken sense of duty. It’s not an unpleasant circumstance; it's just the way that it is.

Occasionally, I find myself reflecting on the Christmas celebrations of my youth, which still stirs a sense of nostalgia within me. However, I’ve come to terms with the fact that those days are behind me, and my circumstances have since changed. 

Given the choice of activities on Christmas Eve, my preference leans towards remaining at home, perhaps to sleep, watch a movie, or engage in a video call with friends. While my brother and his family have been welcoming, I find that I often appreciate moments of solitude.

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