My Ex is a Stranger and It's Okay

The other day, I was hanging out with a friend, and he suddenly brought up the topic about ex-boyfriends. He said he’s still in touch with his and told me what his ex has been up to these days, even though I didn’t ask about it. Then he asked me about mine. I just said I had no clue what my ex was doing. It’s not like I don’t care. I just don’t care enough to find out.  

He broke up with me over 10 years ago and I just went along with it, even though I knew it was my fault. He’s still on my social media, but I don’t follow him, so I don’t see his posts on my feed. That’s how I avoid knowing what he’s been up to. I didn’t even know who he dated after me. I wouldn’t even know he has a dog now if my best friend didn’t tell me.

My friend J, who’s still in touch with my ex, once shared with me that my ex was grateful to him for watching out for me. I appreciated his kindness, but I also wondered what made him say that and what he was implying. I mean, we don’t hate each other, but we’re not friends either. We haven’t had a proper conversation in over 10 years, and the only thing that reminds me of him are old photos. 

So why do I feel indifferent about my ex? It's because I have no reason to look back or check on him, as I have lost interest or attachment to him, as it should be. He doesn’t evoke any strong feelings or memories in me. He may cross my mind sometimes, but I don’t have the desire or curiosity to know more about him. He was once a significant person in my life, but now he’s just like any random stranger on the street.

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